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When we have a new partner we usually can’t stop ourselves from singing their praises. New love is a wonderful thing, even though we may drive our friends crazy because we go on and on and on. Too much information? Yes, but we just can’t help ourselves.

If would be wonderful if that didn’t change; that we would always say positive things about our partner. But life doesn’t work like that. Sooner or later things change, for better or worse.

Flash forward, a few months or even few years later and boy does it seem that things change drastically. The person we used to rant and rave about with nothing but compliments, now we complain to our friends about constantly always telling them what they do or dont do.

Relationship disappointments are inevitable. Your partner will say something that hurts you and there will be days when you’re tempted to call the whole thing off. So how about changing that around and concentrating not just on the negatives when talking to your friends, but also the positive.

Balance in life is truly important. It is important to be able to vent to someone about things and event tell them when you are mad at them, but it is also important to say good things about someone as well. Too much either way may not be healthy for the relationship and may create an imbalance for growth. The wrong balance would allow you to lose them as well.

Now, I am not saying that you should never say anything bad or good about your mate, but knowing when to share or how much to share is important. Sometimes before sharing it may be necessary to meditate or do some deep thinking about what is bothering you.

This helps in a couple of ways. First, it allows you to get insight before talking to your mate or anyone else. I believe it is important to trust your own voice or gut in a situation. If after the time of inward thinking you still feel confused, then it may be necessary to talk to someone.

When talking with a friend about your love life, do remember to balance the positive info with the negative stuff. It’ll allow you friend to not just take your side but it will give them a balanced view of the situation. They might even be able to uncover some positive nuggets that you’ve overlooked. I mean you started dating them for a reason, so any help you can get in remembering why would be a good thing.

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