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At some point in all of our lives we experience the heartache that can ultimately come from a love relationship. When looking for help on restoring a broken relationship, it is important to know what the key factors are to putting the pieces back together. In order to begin the rebuilding process, you need a solid foundation to build on. Of course, if that foundation didn’t have some cracks in it, you wouldn’t be reading this right now. By knowing these three key elements you can begin to revive your love for each other:

Mutual Respect- Sometimes we treat the people we love the most the worst. As familiarity sets in, often the boundaries of respect seem to blur. With every offense or hurtful remark, it is easy to begin to treat each other with a rude or indifferent attitude. We say things to and act in ways that we would never act to a stranger.

Before you begin the process of restoring a broken relationship, an honest evaluation of the relationship needs to be taken. Have you acted disrespectfully because of old hurts and offenses? Take a few steps back and look at the big picture. If you can go into the reconciliation process with a renewed respect for each other, the odds of your success are much better. You have to decide, whether you feel like it or not, to treat each other with mutual respect. If you continue the same patterns and habits that got you here, you will most likely fail and hurt your chances of working things out in the future.

Sincere Honesty- What is sincere honesty? Well, in my opinion, it is the opposite of brutal honesty. When trying to make up with someone you love, you need to be honest about your actions and how you feel. When they hear the truth, whether good or bad, a sincere honesty will always be received better than brutal honesty. Say things in a gentle way, and be considerate of how what you are saying will make the other person feel.

Okay, here’s the trick though. You actually have to be honest. Half-truths won’t cut it. Sometimes we even lie to ourselves when our heart is in enough pain. Nothing can be resolved if the truth isn’t out in the open. Don’t hold back just to spare the other person’s feelings, but don’t be harsh or insensitive and blame in on being honest. Speak gently and be considerate of their feelings and even uncomfortable truths will be received better.

A Willing Heart- Relationships can lose their spark as time goes on, and many people react by being stubborn or stand-offish. Think back to when you started dating. Remember how you would go out of your way to make them happy, to put their needs and desires above your own? Butterflies fade and we have to face real life head on, and that makes many of us only worry about taking care of “number one”.

If you are determined to give your all in restoring a broken relationship, you need to set your needs and desires aside temporarily. Focus on doing things that make the other happy and their life a little easier for no other reason than because you love them. Take her out to eat at her favorite steakhouse, even though you don’t necessarily like it much. Go with him to that event he’s been dying to go to, whether it is something you would choose to do or not. A willing heart will only make your efforts more powerful. Be willing to forgive, to sacrifice, and to really love. Doing so will keep your hearts tender toward each other.

The essence of it all can be expressed in a piece of advice I was given before I got married. If you spend your energy and efforts on taking care of the other person’s needs and desires, and they chose to do the same, both sides will never be without their needs met. Look out for each other, be kind and lighten each others load. Focus on respect, honesty, and a tender, willing heart and you will be on the way to truly restoring a broken relationship.

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